S1 E9 The Super Wise Exhaustion Episode

Listen. "Tired" is a natural state of being. It's just as natural as breathing and your heart beating. 

Ease up on yourself. It's okay to rest. It's also okay to be tired.

Exhaustion is a real killer out here in these stress-filled streets.

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What's up, good people? Welcome back to the Speak Space. It's your favorite spiritual sister, the super wise, intelligent, here to bring you some super good conversation close. Welcome back. Welcome back. Before we get started, I want to thank my spirit guides for sponsoring today's video. They have been keeping me sane. They have been working miracles in my life, and I want to give them a shout out for keeping me standing upright and keeping my life intact. And, you know, I also want to thank all of my contributing supporters and subscribers. I appreciate you so much. I also appreciate my listeners who just want to tune in and hear what I have to say. I hope you can take something away from the things you have heard up until this point. And if this is your first, very first episode with me, welcome, welcome. I am so grateful to have you here. I'm grateful for everyone who takes time out of their day, takes time out of their space in life to join me here at the supervised Speak Space to listen in and to have some fun. So with that said, we're going to go on ahead and get into today's episode. All right, welcome back. Welcome back, you guys. So I took a bit of a break and today's episode was kind of birthed from some of the introspection that I allowed myself to go through during that break. I have a lot going on in a very short amount of time, and I really had to force myself to take a knee before life kind of sat me down. And I beat myself up about it a little bit because I was like in my mind at the time before I kind of took a couple of days off in my mind at the time, I was like, if you don't keep going, then you're going to lose the momentum and everything is going to stop. And you all I actually believed that. I was like, if I don't keep going, if I don't record another episode, if I don't do this, if I don't do that listen, my body was telling me that I needed to take a break. Not just a mental break, but a physical break, an emotional break, a spiritual break. Because I have so many things happening in my life at one time. And I am grateful to say that these are brilliantly, wonderful things. However, those things can be stressful, too. And we have to be careful with the toxic side effects of positive and manifestation minded thinking, right? Because I'm quick to say I manifested a thing. And to be fair, I am a wonderful manifesto. But I also have to realize that I, as a human fleshly being, have to rest my human fleshly body or I will overload it with stimulus and then blow my circuit, if you will. So that's kind of sort of why I have allowed myself to take the break that I needed to take to avoid exhaustion, because I've been exhausted before, and I've been exhausted on all seven senses at the same time in an austere environment and still didn't go crazy, thank God, but was very, very close to. And today's episode is going to be centered around the idea of rest and also the toxic notion that resting can sometimes be synonymous with laziness or with procrastination. Now, the latter could be true, but even in procrastinating, I think there is a method to that madness, because sometimes you need to take a beat for a minute, and not a beat down, but a beat, as in a pause. You need to take a strategic pause to allow yourself to gather the strength you need, the mental fortitude you need sometimes to attack certain types of tasks. Things tend to overwhelm me when I don't take the time to break huge tasks down into executable sized and small enough sizes for me to be able to successfully digest as a person. So let's talk about that for a second. Let's get into with you. All right, so exhaustion exhaustion is more than just being tired. Exhaustion is about 500 miles past tired. Tired is like, okay, all right, I feel it, but I know that I have a little bit more left in me. Tired is when it's okay to kind of push through a little bit more. Now, if you keep pushing and you don't rest about 10 miles past tired, and you find yourself 500 miles down the road in exhaustion, that's dangerous hospital territory, because exhaustion is no joke, people. Exhaustion is how people end up in the hospital. Exhaustion is how people find themselves passed out in places and don't know what the hell happened to them. Exhaustion is when people snap and go crazy. Exhaustion is just not a healthy state to be in. And for me have I been exhausted before? Hell, yeah. And it's not a space that I want to be in. The exhaustion itself is the end of that journey, actually. The exhaustion is when you hit rock bottom and your body just can't go anymore. It's the getting to the exhaustion that I kind of really want to talk about today. And it's so easy to do, especially when your mind and your heart is in the right place. You have a goal. You tread ahead, as many of us do. We keep our head down. We fight the good fight. And sometimes we forget to lift our heads up to see if there's a pole in the way, if we're about to walk into something, if there's a hole in the ground, if there's something that can eventually overcome us. And in my personal journey, I am very guilty of talking to myself in such a way that I punish myself if I don't push through many things. Most things, actually, because I don't want to be placed in the category of being lazy. I don't want to be placed in the category of not being productive when in human real life you all there are 24 hours in a day. Many of us dedicate eight of those hours to trade in for money in the form of a job so that we can afford some of the luxuries that we have in this life. And a lot of our world centers around those 8 hours, create so much of what our world is centered around because it affords us to do the things outside of those 8 hours that make us happy and comfortable. And I think for us, as people living in the society that we live in right now, it's really hard to disassociate ourselves from money and things and sensations, not necessarily even feelings because we don't even have time to feel a thing. It's just a sensation, it's just a reaction. And we don't really realize that much like electrical currents, it's possible for us to be overcome by the shock of constant stimulation, constant stimuli. And because we aren't aware of this, because it happens at such an unconscious level, a subconscious level, we just go throughout our day aiming to do one thing but carrying the load of so many other things that we aren't even processing at the time. And by the time we realize what's really wrong with us, it's kind of too late. And we've involuntarily, in many cases reached a point of a type of exhaustion that we can't even explain. We are beyond tired and we don't even know why. That's something that we have ceded so much control of ourselves to an environment and we don't half the time we don't even know where our power, where our attention, where or why these things have gone. We just know we don't have no more when we can't function. And some of the lessons that I've learned in my 40 years of existence has been to be very intentional about where I place my energy because I'm coming to. The older I get, the more I appreciate my energy. For connecting me to life source, for connecting me to spirit, for connecting me to all of the things that I need to actually sustain myself in this life and more than anything, for keeping me aware. Because I found that for me, having the onus of my well being holistically, understanding that it is my responsibility to keep myself energized has put me in a position where I set very healthy, very firm, yet healthy boundaries with people, places and other situations just so that I can keep my batteries charged. And I just want to let you all know out there in Internet land, if you will, that in the process of self care, in the process of practicing self love, in the process of all of these things that lift you up and help you to elevate all else, just so that you can maintain the status quo of having enough from your cup so that you can pour into someone else's, and to always make sure that what you pour you can then receive in some form or fashion to keep your cup filled at a reasonable level. For me, it is saying no when I mean no. And for some of us, that's really hard. And maybe you need to work to get to that point. But let me tell you something about that word no. When you stand firm on the intention of a no, most times all you are doing in the moment is protecting your peace. And when I tell you that is like a solar panel for conserving your energy. It really and truly is. No is a shield. It is the one tool that you have in your arsenal that can mean the difference between life and death when it comes to situations. And see, the society that we live in grooms us to believe that the correct answer is always the yes. Most times, the correct answer is no first. No. Someone asks, you say no. Let me think about that. Or if you don't want to say no in the moment, just say, you know what, give me a chance to think about it. If a person can't be patient with you, to give you a moment to consider, whatever, if a situation isn't timely enough for you to be able to really consider in any circumstance, such as that, the answer should probably be no anyway, and get comfortable in the space of no. Get comfortable in the space of protecting your piece. I'll say this because I know this personally. The more I became comfortable in protecting my piece, the easier the nose came. I already knew what I had the capacity to do. I already knew what my bandwidth would be. I already understood my spiritual reaction to people enough so that if I had a certain type of reaction, if my body did a certain type of thing, it's a no from the beginning. They don't even have to ask. My demeanor will tell them everything that they need to know. The answer is no. And people going to try you anyway. Let them. But just say no. You know what I'm saying? Just say no and go live your life. Go be about your business. And speaking of business, mind your own. Today is going to be a very short episode. Like I said, you all. I do have a lot going on, but I did want to carve out an intentional few minutes just to check in. Just to say hey, just to remind you to be kind to yourself, to set healthy boundaries, to stand firm on those healthy boundaries, and to not exhaust yourself. It's 751 here where I am right now. P. M. And it's bright and sunny outside, 02:00 in the afternoon, which is what I love about this place. I am about to go sit out in nature for a little while while it's cool outside, I'm about to decompress a little bit more. I'm about to listen to these birds sing to me, and then I think I'm going to just take it in. Soak in a tub, you all get some water action going on to soothe my soul, and I may just go on ahead and call it a night with my 40 year old self, but that's the way I feel right now. And to be so honest with you, I was so tired earlier today because I was just thinking about all of the stuff I had to do. I wasn't even in a place where I had to actively do anything in that specific moment, but just the thought of all of the stuff that I have to do in a very short amount of time started to overwhelm me, and I was exhausted just thinking about it, but I doubt it back. And I reminded myself that everything that I have to do is doable if I hold myself accountable to being a master executor and manager of my time. So I gave myself just a little bit of space to freak out a little bit. And once I was done with all of that, I came back to myself again and I wrote out a schedule for how things should happen. And now that I can see the progress over the course of the amount of time that I have to accomplish certain things, it's a little bit easier for me. And the days are a little bit brighter and my mood is a whole lot better because I don't want to be tired, I don't want to be exhausted, and I have control over that. So my no's have been no. My yeses have been yeses, and my maybes have been maybes. But most of all, my rest has been a definite. Y'all enjoy the rest of your day. Thank you so much for joining me at the Speak space. I always love having conversations, having conversations with y'all, and I hope that you stick around for the next episode. And until then, may the peace of God in me meet the peace of God in you, and you have a beautiful and wonderful time in life. Until we meet again. Talk to y'all later. Bye.